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Am I unusual?
The first thing to remember is that if you find you're getting angry, you're not abnormal or weird. Anger is a basic human response to situations that challenge or thwart us in some way. It's also a recognised response when we are faced with situations we don't understand and feel frightened.
Where anger comes from
Anger is something we've developed over the course of human history to help with situations such as:
Is it on the rise?
Although Anger Management has been more visible as a means to control excessive anger, it doesn't necessarily mean that out-of-control anger is on the rise. Many people have suffered as a result of this phenomenon and there are some very high profile examples in history and the present day.
Who else has a temper?
1. English King, Henry the Eighth had a terrible temper, flying into uncontrollable rages when thwarted
2. Mike Tyson, world heavyweight boxer, has a famous temper
3. Naomi Campbell, supermodel, is famed for her angry outbursts and attacks on bystanders and press officials
4. The former Italian dictator Mussolini was an angry man, not scrupling to vent his anger on anyone who happened to be near enough
However, if you're not in control of your anger at any time, and find that it is controlling you, leading to actions that hinder rather than help, you might need to consider managing that anger.
How much is normal?
Think of it as a sliding scale: at one end are the usual, "in proportion" angry responses to incidents that threaten us or our loved ones and at the other, out-of-proportion reactions resulting in you losing control.
Incident creating anger
Proportionate response_______________________________Disproportionate response
In control Not in control
If you find you're at the "Disproportionate" end of the scale you could think about ways to tackle your response either by finding out more about what happens when you get angry, or come along to Peaceworks course on Anger Management and look at some practical ways to get a handle on your anger.
The facts about disproportionate anger
What does disproportionate anger look like?
Have a look at this list of symptoms and see if you recognise any from the "Disproportionate" end of the scale.
(From university of Sheffield)
If you recognise more than one or two of these symptoms, you could take action to control your anger. Make it a priority and get your life back.